Brad Burke asked:

There are many misconceptions about the use of adult toys in relationships. Some people feel they cannot compete with something that does not get tired, or sore. Those people feel that a toy is going to be their replacement and that they will not be as desirable to their partner.

The truth is the best intimacy comes between two people that care for each other. Their truly is nothing that can replace the physical, emotional, and spiritual connections made during intimacy. As much fun as the jackrabbit 3000 is with its 42 functions and 10-hour battery, it still will not talk to you, it cannot read your body language, and you can forget about the pillow talk and cuddling when you are done.

The reason toys are beneficial is they promote communication between the couple. They also provide a sense of adventure, and the thrill of trying something new and unfamiliar in the bedroom. When used properly, toys can promote the growth and understanding of each others intimate needs.

With a vast selection of toys, there is something out there for you and your partner to try. From mild to wild, you can find something that will help take your relationship to a new and fun level. You have many options when looking for toys. There is no need to visit, "that" store off the highway exit. You can shop discreetly online, or you can host a party with your friends and get a chance to see, feel, touch, and taste the different toys, creams, edibles, and more in the comfort of your own home. You might even make some extra money at your party to pay bills or get a free toy of your own.

So before you dismiss the use of toys, know that they are not meant to replace anything, they are only meant to enhance you and your partner's intimacy and adventure in the bedroom.

Thanks for reading, and happy playtime!

Dale

Chess McDoogle asked:

Ensuring an exciting, erotic, and sensual sex life is essential for couples to maintain. Having a good sex life should be considered a very important aspect to every relationship.

Here are some great sex tips for couples to ensure a healthy, strong, and always intimate relationship:

1. Spicing it up with Sexy Clothing.

One of the easiest ways to create what I call an "automatic turn-on environment" is through sexy clothing, in particular sexy lingerie. This is such an easy sex tip to increase romance, yet there are still couples who don't use this technique.

The beauty of lingerie is that it can work both ways: As a man you can go out and buy your partner an outfit you'd love to see her in, and as a woman you can totally surprise your man with lingerie you pick out on your own.

2. Sex Toys.

This doesn't have to be anything too kinky at all. Matter of fact the simpler, the better. A great sex toy option can be erotic lotions or oils. This takes intimacy to a whole different level. New sensations are felt and you will definitely engage in more sensual touching than you usually do.

The beauty of erotic oils are the simplicity of them. They are small, simple and ready to be used immediately.

3. Sex Variety Book.

This is an excellent, sure fire sex tip to increase your sex life ten-fold. There are sex variety books available which outline the best positions, most sensual places to touch, and the best sex techniques which couples can take turns applying to one another. You'll never run out of ways to become sexually intimate with a good sex variety book.

Ali

Chris C O asked:

Time was when the only available adult toy for men was a badly made plastic blow up doll with a vagina about as realistic as a three dollar bill. Either that or strange little bottles of the aphrodisiac Spanish Fly. It's strange to think that one of man's most primal urges was so incredibly badly served. How times have changed. Today the adult toys for men market has exploded to become part of a $15 billion business that is growing each year by 30%. The toys for men range includes everything from the most realistic butt and vagina machines, to penis sheaths, vibrators, pocket vagina, penis rings and much more.

Looking for sex toys for men? Take your pick. The choice and complexity has become every bit as tough as trying to choose a cell phone. You've got sex toys for men that vibrate, that perfectly imitate the female vagina and butt. An adult toy in the form of sophisticated penis rings and penis sheathes that prolong and enhance erection. A sex toy for men to deliver mind blowing orgasms such as state of the art masturbators, that can feel even better than the real thing. The adult toys industry has reached the point of maturity where highly trained professionals are turning their attention to it and reaping huge profits.

Some of the latest toys for men on the market are enjoying literally explosive results. Some of the latest adult male toys concepts readily available on the internet include:

Fleshlights - this toy for men simulates the look and feel of a mouth, a vagina or a butt. You hand pump the Fleshlight to arousing climax.

Monkey Spanker Masturbator - This stretchy, bendy sex toy for men envelopes with warmth, as if you are inside a real woman.

Vibrating vagina and butt - a sex toy for men often modeled directly from famous porn actresses. Most have vibrators and special plastics and silicons to simulate the real deal.

Marshall

Sam W. John asked:

Even if you have an active sex life together with your partner, you and your partner might be looking for more exciting techniques to heat up at night in your bed. There are a lot of ways to satisfy your partner, by using different techniques such as using sex toys.

One of the most popular sex gadgets is the vibrating cock ring. This kind of sex toy can actually make you sizzle through the night. Because of its very unique function of combining two sex gadgets in one. This specialized sex toy is a combination of a vibrator and a cock ring. By having this vibrating cock ring, you can experience two sensations with just one sex gadget.

For those people who are newbies in using this kind of sex toy, this vibrating cock ring is just right for you. You do not have to be a skilled sex addict to be able to use this toy. Once the vibrating cock ring is in the right place and turned on, the only thing for you to do is have sex. Applying this ring just as simple as putting on your sock.

Just simply pull the ring up with your fingers just like a rubber band. Pull it over around the penis and your ball until it is properly placed. Just relax and don't put on added tension, let the ring slowly contract into its original size. Compared to other vibrators, vibrating cock rings do not need the use of your hands, making your hands free to stroke and massage your partner during the sexual intercourse.

If you do not want to spend much on a sex toy, choose a vibrating cock ring. Most cock rings are made up of silicon making it more affordable than others. Plus it is easier to clean, use and it is rechargeable. You can play with your vibrating cock ring to maximize your pleasure. Experimenting on how to use it is a nice thing to do during your sexual activity.

It has a rubbery material, so you cannot avoid instances wherein your pubic hair may stick unto the rubber. You can simply avoid this irritating situation by making sure that your genitals are properly lubricated. When taking off your ring you have to carefully pull it to avoid damaging your pubic hair.

Always make sure that your hands are dry before putting it on. You may lose your grip of the ring, because of its rubbery material. Different positions can have different effects on the cock ring. Be sure to go on one position to the other one at a time. Just by rotating the cock ring you can create a different new position. By doing this you can provide greater stimulation on your scrotum and perineum area. You can add a more intense sensation on your penis.

These cock rings are not only design for men and women, lesbian and gay can also used it for more exciting sexual intercourse. Enjoy the unique experience of this sex toy and make your partner scream for more.

Porter

Sam W. John asked:

First thing to keep in mind is that, all sex toys need a little lubrication. The position and techniques do not matter when using a sex toy. It's just a matter of lubrication to make it more enjoyable and easy to use. Lubricants make your sex toys safer to use for you and your partner. You can feel a lot better when you properly lubricate it before your actual intercourse.

Our body creates a natural lubricant when having sex; this same principle is also applied when using a sex toy. If you want to feel a more natural way of having sex, using a sex toy, you have to apply this simple principle before starting. This will help so that you and your partner will not hurt yourself during too much friction. Always remember to put the right amount of lubrication even when you have a partner or just a solo performer.

It is very important to decide the right type of lubricant. There are three kinds of lubricant available in the market. The three basic formulations of lubricants are water based, silicon based, and the petroleum based which are closely similar to water based lube. The advantage of having a water based lube is that, you can use it on any virtual vibrator, masturbation, and dildo. It is very easy to clean after a sexual intercourse.

You just have to rinse it with warm water and it is ready again for use. But if you are using a waterproof toy, water based lube is not very effective to use. Water based lubricant will just rinse off when subjected to water as well. It will definitely defeat the purpose of using a lubricant. You may want to use a water based lubricant in any sex toy made of silicone. But using a silicone lube in a silicone toy will damage your sex toy. A silicone is greatly made up of small particles of crystals. When these tiny little crystals rub on to each other, they will definitely scratch each other. It will create havoc on the silicon toy that might create e tremendous damage on your sex toy.

If you want sensual fun in the water, silicon lube is just the right choice. If you also love using a waterproof toy, you can use the silicon lube too. You may use your sex toy for a life time if you will use a silicone lube. A silicon lube can be used again after long intercourse just by adding a little saliva or water into the silicone lube. It will not take many hours of cleaning this thing because a little soap and water can do the trick.

For female masturbation and non latex anal toys, petroleum lube is recommended to use. If you are fond of anal play you may use petroleum lube to make your entry as smooth as possible. Avoid using petroleum lube on sex toys made up of latex material. It tends to irritate the women's vagina during an intense sexual intercourse. Look for the best lubricant that you can use for your sexual fantasy.

Ramon

Chess McDoogle asked:

Oftentimes Christian couples will have questions regarding the specific rules of intimacy allowable within the Christian religion. If these questions go unanswered, they can cause great stress and uncertainty within the relationship. In turn this can cause strains in sexual intimacy, and cause sex to be limited or less frequent. Here are important rules to learn regarding Christian intimacy:

Positions allowable:

Many Christian couples will be surprised at the number and variety of positions allowable. First off, the main aspect to positioning is safety. If it is not safe and not intimately enjoyable to your partner, then it should not be allowed.

The one position or intimacy act most often discussed and debated is that of rear entry. Again Christians may be very surprised to find the amount of positive remarks regarding this position. It can be argued, and cited directly from the Bible, that this intimacy position is definitely allowable. On the other hand, there are individuals who have steadfast beliefs otherwise. It is up to the couple to make the decision, making sure to always put safety at the forefront of the discussion.

Sex Toys or Intimacy tools:

Another controversial issue within Christian sex intimacy, is in regards to sex toys or intimacy aids. Many will automatically assume that these tools are to be forbidden, but the truth is not as cut and dry. Sex toys or intimacy aids are indeed allowed within Christian intimacy, given that they offer a safe, enjoyable way to increase or assist in sexual pleasures. Oftentimes sex toys such as lotions or lubricants will often make intimacy much more safe and sound, than without the use of them.

Christian Sex Manuals for Rules and Practice Technique:

Some have believed that even reading or studying this subject more intensely is possibly a sin and likely isn't allowed. It certainly is not forbidden to seek out more knowledge by studying from a sex intimacy manual which is specifically written for Christian couples. This is actually one of the quickest, easiest, and most effective ways to get to the bottom of Christian intimacy practice and find out not only what is allowed, but different tips and techniques you can use to greatly increase your intimate sex life.

Chris

Chess McDoogle asked:

There has been some confusion over whether Christian sex toys are healthy and sound for the Christian intimate relationship. They in fact can be a healthy addition to a Christian relationship, within reason. Here are some very important guidelines for Christian sex toy inclusion:

1. Safety. As always safety should be a number one concern regarding toys. The purpose is to add or compliment pleasure, not to inflict any unnecessary harm. This of course wouldn't be the intention with the Christian couple, but it's important to be sure a toy does not pose any noticeable accidental harm or danger to yourself or your Christian partner.

2. Avoid. There are some intimate toys to avoid. One such would be any sex toy resembling or mimicking that of another person, figure, or representing such. There are toys present which will resemble, say for instance, a popular celebrity figure. This is akin to bringing in a third party to your relationship, and naturally that is a major no-no that goes against Christian intimacy.

3. Imagination. Your choices for intimate toys can include a wide variety of lotions, lubes, erotic oils and fragrances, and even various erotic foods, syrups, frosting, or other sweet flavorings. Make or create your own safe and sound toy, such as a tickler pillow or erotic massage pleaser and teaser.

While certain limitations exist when including a toy into a relationship, with creative imagination there is a wide open arena of erotic and intimate toys to create, include, and intimately enjoy!

Shakira

Chrystal L. Bougon asked:

I wish I had a dime for every time I have heard the words "what if he is intimidated or I hurt his feelings when I bring home this sex toy"? This topic comes up all of the time at our in home sex toy parties.

However, most men these days seem to embrace the toys and the really SAVVY men know that they only make their jobs easier! Integrating a quiet vibrator into your lovemaking can make MOMMA EXTRA HAPPY........ and we all know the old adage about when MOMMA ain't happy. As I love to say, really savvy men know that sex toys do all of the heavy lifting for them. And, speaking from personal experience, nothing can replace a living, breathing, warm, good smelling partner.

But, even in 2009 I still get one or two women, per party, who ask me that question. In some cases, I think it's more about the woman being afraid to communicate with her lover that she is ready to enhance their bedroom fun. And sadly, in some cases, it's true that their male partner really does not like the idea of a toy. (Men are mostly worried that they will be replaced, or the toy will be bigger then them.)

It turns out that some unenlightened men see a vibrator or a dildo as a replacement. But, like my title says TOYS ARE JUST AN APPETIZER. They are only designed to get us warmed up and as we all know, women typically need more warm up time then men. Our partner is our entree! Rarely will an appetizer really satisfy us. Sometimes an appetito is plenty, but usually the appetizer just builds the anticipation for the main course. (Anticipation..... ahhhh...... we all love anticipation, don't we.)

So, back to my point to the guys. If your girl takes 20 minutes, why not bring something like a SLENDER SENSATIONS or a SILVER BULLET into your foreplay repetoir. Use the soft vibration on her nipples, on her neck and back, move it around slowly on her lower tummy or try using a little more pressure with it on her pelvic bone. Don't just plunge right in. Take the toy and tease her a bit with it to get her warmed up. If you take the time to help the blood flow increase to her pelvic region, what you will find is a woman who is HIGHLY responsive and who will have an orgasm more easily.

Make sure she is warmed up and lubricated before you allow it to touch her clitoris. If she is not lubricating on her own, do not take that as a personal affront to your skills. Sometimes it's hormonal and sometimes it's just how we are wired. Crazy things like too much Starbucks, allergy meds and lack of sleep make it difficult for us to lubricate and reach orgasm. I recommend using Eros Silicone Lubricant. It's super female friendly and with no flavor, no scent, and no preservatives.

Men should really EMBRACE toys. If you have difficulty giving your partner an orgasm orally, incorporate a soft quiet toy like the FINGER FUN into your oral lovemaking. Using it in conjunction with your tongue and fingers can give her that little extra vibration she needs to give her an orgasm from oral. Just think how much less work your tongue has to do. This toy is soft, waterproof and quiet. It's small enough that it won't get in the way and is subtle enough it won't be TOO strong for her.

When I do the co-ed Pleasure Parties I love to coach the men to make sure they take care of their female partner first. Give her an orgasm before you have any penetration at all. If you want to see your wife or girlfriend's LUSTY VIXEN come out for a little while - give her an orgasm, then have intercourse, and then give her another orgasm after. You may see a side of your partner you have never seen before. Women can be extra ravenous and aggressive after their first orgasm and will be begging you for intercourse after that!

I would love to hear your comments on this subject. Have questions about which sex toy is right for you and your partner, give me a call at 408-826-9087. I am a Sex Toy & Sex Expert and would love to help you find the right toy for your situation. No obligation to buy anything. You can even buy it from my competition. I would just love to help you find the right toy to ELEVATE your sex life.

Abdullah

Chrystal L. Bougon asked:

How about BOTH? Remember that infamous episode of "Sex & The City" when Kim Catrell's character "Samantha" tried to return her VIBRATOR to The Sharper Image and she got into a big debate with the Sharper Image sales guy about it being a back massager and not a sex toy. Turns out they were both right!

For decades, women have been buying "back massagers" from the Sears & Roebuck catalog! Mommy's little helper came in the form of a valium and the "Oster" massagers.

Modern women can buy a "back massager" at Walgreens, CVS and pretty much any other local neighborhood drug store. I remember buying my Hitachi Magic Wand at a local Walgreens about 20 years ago and it's still going strong. I bought it at the drug store thinking I was being discreet. (I was 21 at the time... so naive.) I didn't realize that the entire FREE WORLD used their back massagers for other areas and not just their tense neck or back. What can I say, I was a late bloomer.

The Hitachi Magic Wand is likely the most INFAMOUS back massager. Every lesbian I have ever met and talked about sex toys with has mentioned the magical electric wand from Hitachi - often referred to as the "magic wand." I always joke that lesbians KNOW THEIR TOYS! And, here in the Bay Area, where we do our Bliss Pleasure Parties, we meet lots of gay women who are not too shy to share their favorite sex toys with us!

The Magic Wand is a beautiful toy and it is also a FAB back massager. It plugs into the wall so it's very reliable. No batteries to wear down or that die on you at that oh so important moment! Seriously, it's a great massager that also works very well for masturbation and partner sex. It's not the sexiest vibrator nor is it the prettiest, but I can tell you it's VERY reliable and will get the job done EVERY TIME.

But, here is some really good news I am so excited to share with all of you. The company that makes the Hitach Magic Wand now ships a new cordless and waterproof wand called the Mystic Wand. I think it's PERFECTION and am so excited that my customers seem to agree. I have been showing it for about a month now at our home parties and everyone who touches it falls in love, too.

The new Mystic Wand has this yummy skin on the wand/bulb that is called "skin safe silicone" so this vibrator can be used all over the body, even on sensitive skin! Massage aching shoulders and soothe sore necks, then guide the rounded head to more intimate areas of your body for some truly stunning sensations! The flexible neck allows this massager to be used at any angle, hitting sweet spots you never even knew you had!

This new "back massager" is like the Hitachi Magic Wand's sweeter, sexier and more portable version. It takes 4 double AA batteries and has PLENTY of power for those of you who like the stronger toys. It has 6 speeds, so something for everyone! And, it's CORDLESS so much easier to share with your partner and use together.

Both wands are made by one of my favorite sex toy manufacturers, Vibratex. Vibratex is the manufacturer of the Original Rabbit Pearl - the "rabbit" that Charlotte from "Sex & The City" became addicted to. Vibratex makes great quality toys and this new cordless "back massager" is at the top of their TOP 3 Sex Toys, in my opinion. They have a knack for making toys that endure, are made with women in mind and they also give lots of thought to the ergonomics. (Plus their sex toys have a 1 year warranty!)

Want one of your own? Tell Santa what a good girl you've been! Add it to your wish list and tell Santa he can use the coupon code "WAND" to get a FREE bullet with your purchase of a "Back Massager"!

Danny

Chess McDoogle asked:

Among the Christian sex advice sought out by Christian couples, the subject of sex toys often comes up.  Are they allowed in a Christian relationship?  Is it considered sin allowing such things to aid in our intimacy?  Here is some sound Christian sex advice regarding intimacy toys.

Lotions and oils.  Many couples don't realize that sex toys can be as simple as erotic lotions or hot oils.  These are perfectly fine to use during intimacy, and a great, and very simple, way to spice up pleasurable sex.  Videos.  Pornographic videos have also been linked to the category of "toys" or intimacy aids.  These should generally not be allowed in a Christian relationship.  The exception has to do with instructional video which may be explicit in nature, but may provide the couple with the help they need in achieving new, exciting, and pleasurable forms of intimacy. Safety. The vast majority of intimacy aids can be narrowed down to the question - are they safe?  If they present any harm then by all means they should not be allowed to be used during your intimacy.  You definitely want to focus on safety first.  Agreement on toys.  Christian sex advice often stresses that couples should wholeheartedly agree on their positions and practices.  This also holds true for toys.  If one of you is uncomfortable with a particular toy then it should be excluded.  Their are many other pleasure aids available that you should be able to find which you both can agree on and derive added pleasure from. No Substitute.  Finally, intimacy toys should not be a substitute for sex and pleasure between one another.  They should only aid, assist, or compliment the pleasures of sex.

Lillie